by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 19/08/25 | Blog
Significant change in your relationship patterns isn’t all gain. It comes with very real loss. I’ve walked away from love before. Not because they were a bad person. Not because they didn’t care. But because staying would have required me to accept too little. And I...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 16/08/25 | Blog
If you keep reading my posts/emails and thinking “this sounds like me… I really need to do something about this…” but you never actually take the next step – This is your moment. You’re invited to register for my learn-at-home, pre-recorded Emotional Regulation...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 14/08/25 | Blog
Let’s get real. You want secure love. You want honest communication. You want to stop walking on eggshells. You want a relationship that doesn’t feel like a fight, a project, or a performance. You want to feel calm when things get hard. To know when to speak and when...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 12/08/25 | Blog
If you feel insecure in your relationship, I want you to consider something radical: Maybe it’s not you. Maybe you’re not “too much.” Maybe you don’t have intimacy issues. Maybe you’re not overthinking, overanxious, or needy. Maybe you’re just in a relationship...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 08/08/25 | Blog
Somewhere along the line, you were taught that relationships are a battlefield. That love is a game of sacrifice. That if you’re not doing everything, you’re doing nothing. That if you’re not giving all of yourself, you’re somehow failing. But that’s not how...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 07/08/25 | Blog
If you’re tired… Not just physically tired, but soul-tired—the kind that builds up when you’ve been holding too much for too long—I want you to hear this: You’ve been doing your best. You’ve been pouring into your relationships, into life, into everyone else. Even...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 02/08/25 | Blog
“Just let it go.” “Stop overthinking it.” “Try to distract yourself.” “Maybe you just need meds.” “Move on.” These are the go-to responses we hear when our emotions won’t shut up. And let’s be clear—sometimes distraction, suppression, or medication can be...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 29/07/25 | Blog
Overgiving Feeds Insecure Attachment Overgiving is one of the most socially acceptable trauma responses out there. It looks generous. Kind. Thoughtful. But often, it’s not about love at all. It’s about fear. Fear that if you don’t constantly pour into the...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 24/07/25 | Blog
Having nightmares regularly? It’s often more than just ‘bad dreams’. Nightmares are one of the most common signs of unresolved trauma. But even beyond that, they’re often a signal – a desperate cry from a part of your subconscious that can’t get through to you...
by Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) | 22/07/25 | Blog
Most people think setting a boundary means saying, “don’t do that again.” That’s only half true. Boundaries have two steps – and most people stop after step one. Step one is stating the boundary. Step two is following through with consequences if that boundary...
