Airing Your Dirty Laundry

Airing Your Dirty Laundry

Sharing aloud with someone what you’ve been through is sometimes a scarier thought than just continuing to live in silence with what you’ve been through, and the challenging after effects of that history. I want to share with you the most common reasons I hear from...
I Almost Married My Worst Abuser

I Almost Married My Worst Abuser

I almost married my worst abuser. I was young, I already believed I was damaged goods, and, typical of abusers, he confirmed this was the case, explicitly, over and over again. We were engaged, and I was happy to be chosen at all. Given how I already felt and what he...
When Talking Therapy Isn’t Enough

When Talking Therapy Isn’t Enough

Sure, the first time you share your traumas aloud with another person to witness you, is pretty significant. Some of the shame dies then, as you realise that what’s happened to you doesn’t make you disgusting or unlovable. That person witnessing you, if they’re good,...
Spending Time With A Narcissist This Christmas?

Spending Time With A Narcissist This Christmas?

To survive the holiday season with a narcissist or a toxic person is no small feat. It takes resilience, strength, and a toolkit filled with strategies honed from years of experience. If you’re here reading this, it’s likely because you’re facing...
Unmasking the Cut and Run: A Hidden Trauma Response

Unmasking the Cut and Run: A Hidden Trauma Response

Introduction Today, we’re delving into the depths of a trauma response that seems to tiptoe in the shadows, seldom discussed and rarely understood. As someone deeply invested in recovery from complex trauma, I began to see this mechanism so often and I’ve...