You could take a whole masterclass on communication.
You could word your needs like a love & light baby angel with a conflict-resolution diploma.
And guess what?
They’d still pull away.
Not because you said the wrong thing.
But because your nervous system is SCREAMING:
“PLEASE CONNECT WITH ME BEFORE I ASCEND INTO PANIC.”
Your words don’t matter if your energy is serving up fear, pressure, and abandonment trauma on a silver platter.
Avoidants don’t speak “logic.”
They speak “do I feel like I’m being emotionally hunted right now?”
If you want connection, stop managing your tone and start managing your nervous system.
Click the button below and take the Relational Health Questionnaire so you can figure out what your body is broadcasting while your mouth is being polite.