It’s really common to have a polarised relationship with anger. Either it pops up more often than we’d like, or we’ve been conditioned to disconnect from it, and even fear it.
Being angry can invoke a lot of shame as it tries to protect us from pain, at any cost. Or we’re scared to access it at all. Which is often a result of conditioning by people from our past; not having access to your anger makes you more controllable.
Healthy anger is essential for healthy relationships, though. There is wisdom in all emotions, but particularly with healthy anger; it lets us know where our edges are. And it prevents us from settling for less than we deserve.
Is your anger balanced? Do you feel it too often? Or not enough/at all? Do you feel shame or fear at the thought of it?
If this is you, you can have healthy anger and the love you want. And actually, it goes together hand in hand. To become the most authentic version of you is far more powerful than splintering off parts of yourself in order to avoid abandonment.
True security comes from fully being you and knowing that that fullest version of you is safe, and more loveable than any dumbed down version ever was.
And getting there is not about self-development, talking about it, analysing it, or any of the other things you’ve tried so far. This is about real, deep, permanent change. No more having to fight to maintain your balance every day. No more feeling out of your depth. No more abandonment anxiety.
Let’s make it happen for you. I have two 1:1 spaces available this month.
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